Day 12 - How you found Blogger and why you made one
I know, I know. Scandalous. But the truth is, I like sex. I don't see anything wrong with sex. And I feel like adults should be a whole lot more comfortable talking about something that is such a big part of being a human being.
I started it in 2003, and have been writing there on and off about my sex life, my marriage, sexual health, and different sexualities ever since. I've always hosted my own site (well, Big does), which, for a while, was a huge disadvantage, because sites like LiveJournal and Blogger had communities, which really gave bloggers an edge when it came to exposure. These days, hosting your own site seems to be a better way to go; especially if you want full control over your content.
But (some) bloggers on the adult side of the internet don't get as much recognition for their work as even the most amateur Medium writer. And search engines are excluding (some) adult content from their results. And YouTube is demonetizing (some) videos that have even the tiniest mention of sex in them. And Amazon is flagging self help books written by and for LGBT folks (books about parenting, for example) as "adult" which keeps them out of searches if you don't know what you're looking for. Which means that if I write about things not related to sex on my adult blog--like mental health, or politics, or weight struggles--my reach is severely limited. For that matter, many of my readers aren't interested, so they won't read it or share it on any of their feeds. Which is totally fine. I'm not here to tell people what to be interested in, or what to share in their personal spaces.
And let's be honest. That blog is all but defunct. I can't seem to find enough give a damn to write about sex, lately. I'm having it. I'm a happily married woman with a voracious sex drive (when I'm not struggling with my mental illness), so of course I'm having it. But write about it? Meh.
I hate being limited. And while there's something to be said for forcing yourself to do things you should do but don't want to, I kinda feel like writing about sex isn't one of those things. Sure, there's still tons of stigma surrounding sex, and there's still a lot of misinformation out there. But there are lots of people who are way better at it than me working on that.
Still, I have lots of life stories to tell. So I decided to start a more mainstream (less sexy) blog. Boo. But also yay because now I have the potential to reach more people and help them not feel so freakish despite not being what society deems "normal." And that's always a good thing in my book.
So I've been giving my best words to fiction, and now this blog. And honestly, I'm really happy about it. It's been a really long time since I've been this excited about writing.
In truth, I don't know why I chose Blogger. I don't know that I'll stay with Blogger. The platform is taking some getting used to. I'm used to Wordpress. We'll see what happens, I guess.
This series inspired by a writing challenge from Living Off Love and Coffee. Find the full list here.
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